It takes 30 days to make a habit stick, 30 days to implement a lifestyle change and it becoming second nature, which isn’t that long when you think about it. A month can fly by in a blink of an eye, it is staying dedicated within that time that is the difficult part. The thing to making a habit stick is to get it out of your head and into your body.
One of the biggest problems in adopting a new habit is this ‘feeling of needing’, we tell ourselves we need to do this and that, when in actuality it isn’t a matter of need, it is a want. We want to implement something new in our lives. When we use the word need, it gives us sense that we are lacking something, which naturally creates an aversion; whereas, if we acknowledge it as a want, which it is, our minds along with our bodies are more accepting.
So, first thing is first, disassociate with ‘needing’ to implement a routine or habit and associate it with ‘wanting’, which will get it out of your head and into your body. Once you release yourself of the obligation to having to do something, it won’t feel like such a chore and it will begin to feel more as the nature to your being.
Another big problem, is creating excuses and justifications for why it isn’t going to work in today’s schedule or even why it wouldn’t work at all. Whether it be the excuse of not having time, money or health, or even the way the blew that day, if we feed into these excuses, it will never become a habit.
So, the second step is to be relentless at making it happen, schedule it in our day and make it a part of our daily routine. Even if you can only spare five minutes for it, still do it. Consistency in important to training our mind. Make it a necessity!
Commit & Recommit
Third step is to commit and recommit each and every single day. And, if you miss a day, don’t sweat it, it isn’t over! Do it! No excuses! The minute you feed into an excuse or justify not following through is the minute you lose the battle. So, treat everyday as it is a new day, because it is; treat everyday as a new commitment, because it is; taking it one day at a time, not overwhelming yourself will relieve pressure and allow you to execute with ease.
Another hurdle is thinking about the ‘how’. We often get caught up on how; how are we going to fit it in; how are going to make it work; how does it look; how should it look… STOP! Therefore, the fourth step and probably one of the most important and significant is to ignore the ‘how’. Stop thinking on how and focus on what, what needs to be implemented and just do it, for the ‘how’ will work itself out once the ‘what’ is put into action. In addition to that, the minute we place a thought before the action, the more we distance ourselves from what needs to be done. So, don’t think, just do!
Last step and the most rewarding, is to acknowledge the feeling of self-accomplishment. Be present to how good it feels to have stayed committed to your goal, even if it is your first day. When you put a spotlight on the positive reinforcement, you naturally detached yourself from negative backlash, focusing more on the benefits rather than the inconvenience -that is, the resistance to changing, such that you reaffirm your commitment and manifest it as a part of your being.
Making something a habit isn’t easy, but it isn’t hard either. It is a matter of manipulating your mind to work to your benefit, adopting new thought patterns which will help you get out of your head and into your body, making it second nature and a part of your being. So, just do it already!
This is the road to fulfilling my life’s purpose… it is the journey that will ultimately transform my soul on levels that are unimaginable. A lot of healing, growing, learning… wisdom… enlightenment at its finest.